If you had ever met Megan, you would have immediately loved her. She had very high highs and very low lows but anytime she met someone, she made an impression on you. She was kind and compassionate soul that would give you the last of what she had and do without herself. She had a tough life, partly because of her choices, but she tried.
I cannot tell you how many times I prayed for this child. At 18, I was pregnant, unmarried and scared. I had no idea what God was up to. She was a child that I didn’t know I wanted until I got her. I remember sitting at the hospital holding a newborn baby thinking, now what do I do? I had never been around children. I have never even changed a diaper. She moved quickly through the growing up. She never could sit still. She crawled for one day. One day. She was walking the next. I joked with her as she grew up, you are my experiment. We would laugh together when I told her that I didn’t have a clue what I was doing. She reassured me that I was doing fine and then she would tell me what to change. It was usually something that was in her favor. Sneaky kid. We laughed more than we cried. We grew up together. And at the end of the day, we muddled along and both turned out okay. I wanted to teach her things about life that I had learned from the school of hard knocks. I never wanted her to deal with the things that I did. I never wanted her to hurt, be in pain or miss any good opportunities. I was her mom, her cheerleader, her friend, her encourager, and sometimes her conscience aka Jiminy Cricket. She was full of questions. Most of them I didn’t have an answer for but I tried. That is all I can say, this momma tried. Mommying is hard. Very hard. I had to do it alone for most of her life. I do feel that the greatest thing that I ever done for her is to pray for her. I didn’t have anything else. It was my greatest source of defense. I don’t think she ever knew how much I prayed for her. And I do not regret one second of it. I literally wore out my knees on that child. She was a challenge. I tried to teach her but honestly, she taught me more than I ever taught her. She taught me unconditional love, honesty, patience, heartache, consistency and compassion. Did I mention patience? This kid was so stubborn. She wanted to find her own way. She was determined to do what she wanted. I prayed wisdom, peace and joy over her. Constantly. It was needed. Time and time again, she would call me. She didn’t have to tell me anything, I could tell in the tone of her voice that she needed to hear 4 words from me. You are worth more. I have no idea why but I began telling her that when she was young. Megan, you are worth more. Low self-esteem plagued her life. No matter how hard she tried to move past it, it remained a hardship. She just wanted to fit, belong and be content. She befriended everyone and never knew a stranger. I would come home from work to find strange people in my house. It was kind of nerve wracking but that was Megan. She would do anything for her friends. Feed them, gave them clothes and shoes, talked to them, cried with them and loved them where they were. She was the example of a person who felt true and honest compassion for people and it didn’t matter their background, color or religion.