Category Archives: Hope

424 Days

424 Days

Scrolling through social media apps, what do you see?  Pictures, always pictures.  Pictures of the family, dog, scenery, parents, siblings, work, co-workers, the list goes on.  All those pictures show the best of the best, but things aren’t always as they appear.  If you look closely at the above picture, you see what appears to be a mother and daughter.  A happy and healthy family is what you see. Let me explain what I see.  I see an aunt who took it upon herself to protect her niece when her mother couldn’t.  I see a niece that loves her aunt as a mother.  I see a grieving sister.  I see a growing child who was robbed of the opportunity to know her mom due to the selfishness of others.  I see my daughter displaying the ultimate love for her sister by raising her child.

My girls fought.  When it was good, it was good.  When it was bad, it was bad.  They were each other’s biggest cheerleader but worst enemies.  I’m grateful that they resolved their differences two days before the accident.  I’m grateful that they had one another and I’m grateful that my granddaughter has her aunt.

Families are not always blood and they don’t have to be.  Families fight for each other, love unapologetically and stand up for one another.  Every family has a weird person.  If you don’t know who that is, it’s probably you.  But….it’s ok.  You’re ok.  Maybe you have an aunt that is now your mom.  Maybe grandma is your mom.  And maybe, like me, your cousin is your mom.  We must love people where they are and no matter what the situation is.

My oldest daughter was pushed.  She was pushed by her sister-in-law.  Pushed into driving fast.  Pushed into losing control of her car.  Pushed into an accident.  Those same people made a mockery of her death and funeral.  Her sister and I were subjected to many episodes of bullying behavior.  We were told that we should have died.  We didn’t love her.  She died hating you.  We had no right being at the funeral.  Every tear that you cried was fake, I was told.  You are evil, I was told.  You will never see your granddaughter again, I was told.  BUT GOD…(vengeance does belong to God).  He knew exactly what He was doing.  In 424 days, I have realized His purpose and His plan to take my daughter.  I’ve never been mad at God even though I have every right to be.  His plan was for my granddaughter to be rescued and He used her aunt to make it happen.  I miss my daughter incredibly.  424 days later, I still see Him working and I will see my daughter again.

 

You Are Worth More

You Are Worth More


If you had ever met Megan, you would have immediately loved her.  She had very high highs and very low lows but anytime she met someone, she made an impression on you.  She was kind and compassionate soul that would give you the last of what she had and do without herself.  She had a tough life, partly because of her choices, but she tried.

I cannot tell you how many times I prayed for this child.  At 18, I was pregnant, unmarried and scared.  I had no idea what God was up to.  She was a child that I didn’t know I wanted until I got her.  I remember sitting at the hospital holding a newborn baby thinking, now what do I do?  I had never been around children.  I have never even changed a diaper. She moved quickly through the growing up.  She never could sit still.  She crawled for one day.  One day.  She was walking the next.  I joked with her as she grew up, you are my experiment.  We would laugh together when I told her that I didn’t have a clue what I was doing.  She reassured me that I was doing fine and then she would tell me what to change.  It was usually something that was in her favor.  Sneaky kid. We laughed more than we cried.  We grew up together.  And at the end of the day, we muddled along and both turned out okay.  I wanted to teach her things about life that I had learned from the school of hard knocks.  I never wanted her to deal with the things that I did.  I never wanted her to hurt, be in pain or miss any good opportunities.  I was her mom, her cheerleader, her friend, her encourager, and sometimes her conscience aka Jiminy Cricket.  She was full of questions. Most of them I didn’t have an answer for but I tried.  That is all I can say, this momma tried.  Mommying is hard.  Very hard.  I had to do it alone for most of her life.  I do feel that the greatest thing that I ever done for her is to pray for her.  I didn’t have anything else.  It was my greatest source of defense.  I don’t think she ever knew how much I prayed for her.  And I do not regret one second of it.  I literally wore out my knees on that child.  She was a challenge.  I tried to teach her but honestly, she taught me more than I ever taught her.  She taught me unconditional love, honesty, patience, heartache, consistency and compassion.  Did I mention patience?  This kid was so stubborn.  She wanted to find her own way.  She was determined to do what she wanted.  I prayed wisdom, peace and joy over her.  Constantly.  It was needed.  Time and time again, she would call me.  She didn’t have to tell me anything, I could tell in the tone of her voice that she needed to hear 4 words from me.  You are worth more.  I have no idea why but I began telling her that when she was young.  Megan, you are worth more.  Low self-esteem plagued her life.  No matter how hard she tried to move past it, it remained a hardship.  She just wanted to fit, belong and be content.  She befriended everyone and never knew a stranger.  I would come home from work to find strange people in my house.  It was kind of nerve wracking but that was Megan.  She would do anything for her friends.  Feed them, gave them clothes and shoes, talked to them, cried with them and loved them where they were.  She was the example of a person who felt true and honest compassion for people and it didn’t matter their background, color or religion.

Abound In Hope

Abound In Hope
Abound In Hope

Romans 15:13

‘Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.’

The Milk

Abound, large numbers or generous amounts.  A large amount of hope by the power of the Holy Spirit is basically what verse 13 is telling us.  It is hard for us to have a small amount of hope let alone a large amount.  So how do we get there?  Smallest amount to largest.  First, realize that God is watching over you.  Isaiah 41:10, ‘fear not, for I am with you.’  God will never leave us. Sometimes it feels like it but He doesn’t ever leave.  People leave but God does not.  Psalms 32:8 tells us that He guides us with His eye.

The Meat

Remember when your children were little and you took them to the park.  They wanted to do everything on their own.  Reluctantly, we let them climb to the top of the slide unattended or swing from the tallest part of the monkey bars.  Even though they thought they were on their own, we sat and watched them, ready to run towards them in troubled times to pick up the pieces.  We waited for them to scream out our names.  We carefully guided their steps even though they may have been unaware of our actions.  We would eliminate obstacles before they got there, filled a hole, killed a bee or wiped water from a slick step to prevent injury.  Even though they were on their own, we carefully watched and never left them.  We see them tackle things that we knew all along they could do, we seen them share a piece of candy with a stranger, we seen them include an ‘outcast’ in the game, we seen them encourage a shy, timid child to the top rung.  In those moments, we realized that the lessons that we had been teaching them we finally sinking in.  Not only did they have hope and faith in themselves but also in others.

The Honey

God was working in their lives even though they were completely oblivious to that fact.  Sometimes, no matter what they did, there was someone that they couldn’t get along with.  Another child said hurtful things.  Psalm 147, He heals the brokenhearted.  He wants to heal us but we should ask for healing in faith. Emotional energy used on past hurts only damages our present and our future.   We must release those who hurt and let go of the right to get even.  If you get pushed off the swing, dust yourself off and swing higher to the sky than before the fall.  God is watching with His careful eye and vengeance is His.

Call Upon Me

Call Upon Me
Call Upon Me

Psalm 50:15

Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you and you shall glorify Me.

There are many tests and trial that we endure in this life.  I believe that the types of test can be condensed to four distinct categories.

  1. Pressure test – reminds me of when my mom used to can tomatoes. Once the pressure was built up enough, the steam would overflow from the spout.  We do that.  Hold circumstances, events and disappointments inside until it bubbles over.  Psalm 50:15 tells us to call on Him, when we do, He delivers us.  Here’s the kicker, in that deliverance from the pressure, we are to glorify Him.  We are commanded to give Him the glory for overcoming the trial.
  2. People test – everyone, and I mean everyone will disappoint you in some way, shape or form. The answer to our worries, depression and dissatisfaction is not found in another person but only in God.  Isaiah 2:22 is very clear about such a thought. “stop trusting in mere humans, who have but a breath in their nostrils.  Why hold them in esteem?” People cannot save you.  We place hope and trust in people that will lead us to destruction.  Isaiah 49:23 says that once we see people for who they are, then we will know that He is the Lord.
  3. Commitment test – Ecclesiastes 5:45 “when you make a vow to God, do not delay to pay it; for He has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you have vowed. Better not to vow than to vow and not pay.” What commitment have you made to God that you haven’t followed thru on your promise? It is a test of our character.  A weak person does not follow up on a promise without an action.
  4. Priorities test – Placing a job, task or person above something else. We all do it, don’t we?  Matthew 6:33 tells us to seek His kingdom first, once we do, all things will be added to us.  Keep in mind that God doesn’t place chess.  We should never seek out to do God’s work for God to give a blessing.  Our actions should glorify Him always not just when we need something.  Call upon God in all ways and in all situations first and foremost.  Rest in Him only.

You Have Found Grace Exodus 33:17

You Have Found Grace Exodus 33:17
You Have Found Grace Exodus 33:17

The Meat

Exodus 33:17 ‘So the Lord said to Moses, I will also do this thing that you have spoken; for you have found grace in My sight, and I know you by name.’

Isn’t that great to know that one day you will audibly hear God whisper your name?  The creator of the universe knows your name.  The creator of the heavens and the earth wants a relationship with you.  The creator of the stars placed each one in the sky just for you to enjoy.  If that doesn’t give you chills, you need a spiritual double-check!

The Milk

In searching for the Bible references to the word grace, Paul probably used the word more than any other writer.  It was possibly because of his prior experience with grace and the journey that his life took before encountering Jesus on the Damascus road.

The Honey

Talking about God’s grace and defining God’s grace are two completely different things.  You see, the definition of grace cannot be found in the dictionary nor can words be assembled in a sentence that can give the word justice.  I’m afraid that God’s grace cannot be expounded upon.  We can use words like good will, favor, lovingkindness….but even those words fail in comparison.

God’s grace was wrapped in swaddling clothes.  God’s grace is in His healing touch.  God’s grace is in the sunset.  God’s grace is in our salvation.  God’s grace is _____.  We can fill the blank with anything.  That is God’s grace.  Paul made attempts in the book of Ephesians but he could only use adjectives and descriptive words like ‘the glory of His grace’ Ephesians 1:6 and ‘exceeding riches of His grace’ Ephesians 2:7.  The bottom line is that we are not worthy of His grace.  His grace is also free.  We must only believe that we can put our faith in God for anything at anytime for anyone, period.  We can do all the right things, live for Him, pray, minister, teach, do great works, write, sing, worship, but it still isn’t enough to deserve His grace.  That is compassion, that is love….that is grace.

Look to the Unseen

Look to the Unseen
Look to the Unseen

2 Corinthians 4:16-18

Therefore, we do not lose heart.  Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day.  For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory, while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen.  For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Trials – The Unseen

If you have ever operated a car, you know that if you see a careless driver, you turn the other direction.  You stop at stop signs and lights and you may even yield to oncoming cars.  It is because we rely on our eyes and common sense to tell us to detour.  When we trust God, we are not steering.  He takes us to the unseen and the unbeaten paths so that we will trust Him.  Not one of us is exempt from a trial.  We are given trials according to His goodness and He gives us the strength to be steadfast.  I know there have been many times I’ve wondered, ‘are you absolutely sure that I can handle this God? Cause I’m not sure’.  I think I’ve dealt with the same trials that everyone else has, some less and some greater.  But you know what?  I have survived 100% of my trials and each time that I make it through another one, God is there saying, yes child, I knew you could handle it.  The important thing is to not lose heart just like 2 Corinthians 4:16 tells us.  Everyday our mortal bodies die a little but inward (our souls) are renewed each day.

Take Away….

These verses should give us hope.  Every morning His mercies are new and each day we can be renewed if we allow God to penetrate our hearts and souls.  Those trials work for us to give us eternal glory and faith in the unseen. God wants us to look past the trial and see Him.  Look past the storm raging and cling to the anchor. Whisper His name into the storm, you will find peace there.  Do not focus on the temporary but the eternal Godly things. I wish I could tell you that it is easy.  I wish I could tell you that life is a cakewalk, but it isn’t.  Not even close.  Do not place your faith in man but only in Christ.

I Know the Plans

I Know the Plans
I Know the Plans

I Know the Plans

Jeremiah 29:11-13

We all have plans.  Plans that have been made and fell through.  Some plans change midstream.  Some plans never take off.  Some plans end in disaster and some are fruitful.  We constantly make plans, dream, rearrange our lives about everything and anything.  Who will I marry, where will I go to school or where will I live?  In making those plans, how often do we consult the One who really knows what is going on?  Jeremiah 29:11-13 tells us everything that we need to know about our plans and plan making skills.  ‘For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.  Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.  And you will seek Me and find when you search for Me with all your heart.’ Let’s dwell for a moment on the face that He thinks about us.  Not only does He think but He plans.  He plans peace, future and hope.  He doesn’t want us living in turmoil or living in defeat but we do that often.  I would also like to point out that it states that when we pray that He will listen to us.  When we earnestly seek His face, He listens to us and, when we are still, the opportunity to hear from Him presents itself.  Proverbs 16:9 also tells us, ‘a man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.’ Making plans without God’s direction is fruitless.  He places desires in our hearts, if those plans are for us, He will fertilize the seed He planted and pave the way for a bountiful harvest.  He knows our future and He will guide us if we completely surrender to Him and allow Him to be in charge.  He wants to give us peace, a future and a hope but for us to receive all His blessings He has for us, we must search for Him with all our heart.